Sunday, January 31, 2016

The one that I got away from

Today post is something that I have been thinking lately, the one that got away (maybe not?) or the one that I got away from. Everyone have that one person that they nearly have the chance to date or thought they had a chance but ended up nothing happened, everything just ended up in disappointment and you're just thinking like what if I done this or what if I didn't do this (it won't end up like this now) 

Well, to me the one that got away means it isn't the right one. The " me " in the past will chase guys or torment myself with thoughts about the what ifs. But I realized now that: 

#1 If a guy like you, he won't make you doubt about his feelings towards you. 

There are many times in my life that I received mixed signals from people, sometimes the person seems head over heels for you and sometimes the person seems to disappeared from the face of the earth. I'd used to made excuses for them e.g. (They are too busy or didn't have chance to read my message yet) so it make me doubt whether they're interested or not. 

But I realized it now that if a guy isn't taking me seriously and gave me mixed signal, I'll just shut them out of my life. The right one will try their best to communicate their feelings to you even when they're shy. I don't give them the benefits of doubts anymore. 

He's not the one that got away, simply put he's just not the right one. 

#2 you won't have to beg for their attention 

I guess everyone know what kind of person I'm talking about, the girl or guy that you texted multiples of times and either he read your message and don't reply or take like super long to reply you. I know everyone has this rose tinted glasses on when they're crushing on somebody but we have to be honest here, he's not the one that got away. We are lucky to know the truth from their action that we are simply not worth their time to even reply and totally should give up. 

The right one won't have to make you feel like you're begging for their attention because it'll be a shared attention between two people and that's beautiful. 

#3 The right one won't make you sad or get disappointed with what you had done for them. 

The one that got away tend to make you had moments which you sit at a corner and think about what ifs and stuff that you shouldn't have done so that you might probably get them now. 

You'll torment yourself with all the thoughts about the person and probably think of what other ways to get them. 

That's all my post for the one that got away (maybe not) , maybe we have to come to terms with ourself that they're not the one that got away. They're just not the one for us, I won't want to waste my time over someone that doesn't treasure my effort for them. I don't regret any efforts that I tried because at the end of the day, I learnt something new and definetly grow to become a better person from this. 

From now onwards, it won't be the one that got away. It'll be the one that I got away from. 

I hope you guys get some inspiration and learn something from this 💕


  1. Those mouse drawings are so cute, I hope you had a great weekend xo

  2. Great post and love the little drawings.
    Blushing in Life

  3. Love this!

  4. I'm very lucky to be currently in a relationship with someone who does all of the above, but I've definitely encountered the one that got away -- or rather, the one that I got away from before. It definitely hurts when you realize nothing's going to happen, but better hurt now than when you realize he's not the right one for you.

    Cheers, Birdie. <3

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    1. Yeah totally agree, thank you for your input. x

  5. Nice writing and great advice. I agree and wouldn't waste time with someone who doesn't reciprocate the same effort in starting a relationship. Beautiful post.

  6. Love it! I had fun reading this.

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  7. Great post! I've always thought about this with previous boyfriends, especially after breaking up with them. When it came to my husband, I knew I had to try everything to make sure he didn't get away. And thankfully, he felt the same way about me.

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    1. Aww glad you found someone that treasure you. x

  8. This is so true. People who want you in their lives won't make it difficult for you to be there. My guy was incredibly forward and to the point. It wasn't what I was used to be it's exactly what works.


  9. Nice post, waiting for the day i can find my right guy.

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  10. Beautifully put. Something tells me a guy has brought you down lately? Unless this is just a post to boost others. Regardless, you're a beautiful young lady with lots of character (from my observation)! Like you said, he's not the one that got away. He's the one you got away from. I absolutely love the way you worded that.

    - Harlynn