Monday, June 6, 2016

To Control Or To Let Go?

There are so many things in life that we can't control: love, feelings, destiny and the unknowns. I was once burdened by everything because I like to be in control, I like to control what I couldn't control. I thought I was having it all, I thought having a grip of everything is making me happy but slowly I realized that it's the thing that's killing me. 

Once I lost control or when I can't control the situation, I get stressed out- overthink the worst kind of scenarios and create unnecessary problems. It's a vicious cycle of being trapped in the power of control. 

After facing so many problems from " control" I decided to just let go and follow the flows of life. I am happier now, whatever happened happens and I just got to move on and accept whatever outcome the situation presented. Having " control " is just a fake feeling of " I have got everything in charge " but actually nothing is ever in place, things are every-changing. There's no real control until we let go and embrace life. 

It obviously took me very long to reach here but here's to my readers out there that's facing the same situation, don't give up on yourself. 

Whenever you want to try to control something, try to take deep breath and let the situation go off for a few days and think about whether it's worth the control. Give some trust to the situation, the people and have a little faith in yourself. It might seems really hard at first but everything will be better once you just let go and be free. 

Thank you for reading! Here's to a better week ahead 💕


  1. Sometimes you have to be ok with the fact that you can't control everything

    xoxo, ♥

  2. Such a well written, thought provoking piece :) x

    Viva Epernay

  3. Like you, I like to be in control.

    There was a period in my life where I felt like nothing was in the grasp of my hands and I grabbed onto the only thing I knew I could control: myself. It was when my unhealthy eating started, and that would come with me for nearly 2 years before I sought help. It was perhaps one of the darkest times in my life, but it also taught me that being in control doesn't necessarily mean that everything will be okay.

    Loving your top, Birdie. x


    1. Indeed, I am so glad to hear that you pull through all of them. x I hope you are better now !

  4. I agree that sometimes we have to lets things go and focus on the present, rather than the past :)

    Velvet Blush

  5. Sometimes things happen out of our control and there's nothing we can do about except accepting it!


    Tamara -

  6. It's normal to want to be in control but life doesn't always allows that so it's important to let go! Thanks for sharing!


  7. Nice post ;)

  8. Great post! so inspiring.

    X Merel

  9. Such a nice post! Sometimes life is like that, we could control it even if how much we tried. Just take a lesson out of it sweetie. :D